I have devised a list of things about being a parent with a special needs child that I wish that everyone knew and understood.
# 1 Please don’t judge me!
The hardest part of being a parent is being judged by another parent who thinks they are better than you or are doing a better job than you.
Yes, that is my son kicking and screaming on the ground! Yes, that is my son sitting at McDonald’s eating weet-bix! Yes, that is my son jumping on the jumping castle wearing shoes! Yes, that is my son covering his ears and crying at the park!
Every child is different and reacts differently to different things. Please just understand that I am trying my best and things that may seem odd to you may be normal for us.
#2 Sometimes I need to vent!
Another hard part about being a parent of a child with special needs is the fact that most of the time you put on a brave face and act like everything is OK. Even when it’s not.
Sometimes, you just need that 30 mins to unload everything off your chest and out of your mind! Even if it is uncontrollable crying babble. Without criticism. Without guilt. Without Judgement.
Parents with special needs children have a lot to deal with and it is hard at times.
#3 I have needs too!
Whether it is taking a nap, having a shower without company or being screamed at, even just having a laugh with a friend or enjoying a nice meal out. These needs are all important in maintaining emotional and physical well being.
I often feel guilty for having these needs. These needs are sometimes just everyday necessities of life that I shouldn’t have to think about but I do. I feel like I get judged for having a time out or a child free day here or there. But the most important thing here is with having all these needs and putting myself first for some time out doesn’t mean that I ever stop loving my child or stop thinking of his needs. I am blessed to be a parent of a child with special needs.
Looking after yourself will, in turn, help your child because you will be strong when they need you to be strong! Do you have anything else that you wish that other people knew about being a parent of a special needs child?